Participation in a sharing circle is one of the ways of building trust in a group of people, building a bond which respects diversity and honours each member for exactly who they are. Parameters for the circle are based on those of 'The Way of Circle' used in many indigenous cultures worldwide.
- Take responsibility for yourself You are the only person you can change. Use “I” statements. Own your feelings, perceptions, wants, etc. Recognize that this is an opportunity for you to exercise self-care by speaking your truth, being heard and expressing more of who you really are.
- Confidentiality What you see, speak, share or hear that is personal or specific to another, remains with you. When sharing the essence refrain from being name specific and share your story in an honouring manner that relates to your own experience.
- Adopt a beginner’s mind Consider the possibility that there may be more for you to learn and benefit from, than what you’re currently aware of, or have experienced.
- Maintain a positive focus. Focus your positive attention on the person sharing. Look for the gifts being shared (e.g. their openness, vulnerability, caring, etc.)
- Connect at a heart level Open your heart to the essence of what is being conveyed. Be willing to get “out of your mind” and release the need to evaluate, judge or compare.
- Be fully engaged with the speaker Refrain from side talk, cross talk or interrupting when someone is sharing.
- When asked for feedback, give only positive support Always see what is positive and possible! Don’t give any unsolicited advice, criticism or counselling.
- When receiving acknowledgment or support, take it. Be open to receiving acknowledgment and let it sink in. Simply respond with “Thank you”.
Begin the sharing circle by asking each participant to introduce themselves by sharing their name and comment on the topic at hand. The topic can be determined by the group or the leader in the circle. Begin by going first yourself (modelling) or by asking if there is a volunteer who would like to go first. Leave room for silence, pregnant pauses allow the particiipant to find their words in their own time.
Because participants are facing one another equally in an interconnected circle, all aspects of the human being (mind, body, heart, and spirit) are activated and learning/sharing has more meaning/authenticity. A strong sense of community is established and everyone is connected in a good way.